I recently moved schools. I am still in the same district, but I finally passed 3rd grade and was "promoted" to the 5th (which is in a different building). This is a whole new group of people to work with (and come out to, for that matter).
Anyway, today after school, one of my colleagues was asking me something, and said.."You don't have kids yet right?"
I loved that she used the word "yet." One tiny word.
Monday, October 29, 2007
Friday, October 26, 2007
Wondering
Sometimes I wonder how we will ever make it as a two-mom family.
There are weeks when both money and time are very tight. I figure it would only be harder with a child. But the times I feel utter joy and calmness about the prospect of bringing another life into our family far outweigh the times of worry.
I think its healthy to worry and to be nervous a little.
Sometimes (actually a lot of times) I wish that a pregnancy could happen by "accident" in our relationship. I wish I could surprise Betsy with a positive test result. Instead, everything is meticulously planned. Because of this, there is no excuse for us not to be completely ready. I feel that pressure sometimes.
There are weeks when both money and time are very tight. I figure it would only be harder with a child. But the times I feel utter joy and calmness about the prospect of bringing another life into our family far outweigh the times of worry.
I think its healthy to worry and to be nervous a little.
Sometimes (actually a lot of times) I wish that a pregnancy could happen by "accident" in our relationship. I wish I could surprise Betsy with a positive test result. Instead, everything is meticulously planned. Because of this, there is no excuse for us not to be completely ready. I feel that pressure sometimes.
Tuesday, October 23, 2007
Sticks and Supplies
Since we are the rookies on the block, I would love to have some advice from our slowly growing readership.
Where did you purchase your fertility monitor and sticks? We have the Clear Blue monitor, but no sticks.
I have the OPK sticks that we purchased from Save-on tests. (Is this even a reputable place?)
Where is your favorite place for baby-makin' supplies?
What should every 2-mom, baby-makin' couple have?
Where did you purchase your fertility monitor and sticks? We have the Clear Blue monitor, but no sticks.
I have the OPK sticks that we purchased from Save-on tests. (Is this even a reputable place?)
Where is your favorite place for baby-makin' supplies?
What should every 2-mom, baby-makin' couple have?
Monday, October 22, 2007
2-Mom Families
If I wasn't addicted to the whole idea of a baby in our house before, I have become even more addicted since finding this whole wide world of lesbian moms online.
Now I am no rookie when it comes to reading or writing online journals. I was reading way before I started my own about 6 years ago on diaryland....then I moved over to livejournal. However, this is different. Those blogs were written to keep up with friends, both online and in real life. This one serves a purpose. I want to be able to show our future child what we were thinking as we were undergoing this process of making him/her. I love that other families, that started just like ours, as two women in love, have done the same thing.
I just keep finding more and more and more. I will start reading one, and then see a link for another, and so on. I find myself having to pry myself away from the computer. I just think that all of these families are so amazing. Maybe its because I know that 2-mom families have to be meticulously planned. Whatever the case, I wish I had more time in my day to read these blogs, find more of them, watch the tickers grow, and gush over the adorable kids.
Now I am no rookie when it comes to reading or writing online journals. I was reading way before I started my own about 6 years ago on diaryland....then I moved over to livejournal. However, this is different. Those blogs were written to keep up with friends, both online and in real life. This one serves a purpose. I want to be able to show our future child what we were thinking as we were undergoing this process of making him/her. I love that other families, that started just like ours, as two women in love, have done the same thing.
I just keep finding more and more and more. I will start reading one, and then see a link for another, and so on. I find myself having to pry myself away from the computer. I just think that all of these families are so amazing. Maybe its because I know that 2-mom families have to be meticulously planned. Whatever the case, I wish I had more time in my day to read these blogs, find more of them, watch the tickers grow, and gush over the adorable kids.
Sunday, October 21, 2007
Temping
Lately my body hsn't been to helpful when it comes to trying to temp at the same time each morning. I realize that looking at the temps will only help me after ovulation, but I thought it would still be good to do to see if my signs all line up. However, my body has been waking up at 3:30am...instead of 4:30am. And of course then, I cannot fall back asleep, and even if I did, I wouldn't have that 4 hour continuous sleep pattern.
Maybe next week I can get on a better schedule. I just need my brain to shut off so I can get some decent sleep.
This morning I woke up with cramps. Great. CD25. No ovulation detected yet.
I need to get sticks for our fertility monitor. So I can do that in the morning and the OPKs in the afternoon. I also have the ovu-lite saliva thing...yeah..don't like that so much....
Maybe next week I can get on a better schedule. I just need my brain to shut off so I can get some decent sleep.
This morning I woke up with cramps. Great. CD25. No ovulation detected yet.
I need to get sticks for our fertility monitor. So I can do that in the morning and the OPKs in the afternoon. I also have the ovu-lite saliva thing...yeah..don't like that so much....
Saturday, October 20, 2007
Where we at?
Besides the ghetto, based on my title choice...
Anyway...at this point in time here is where we are in the baby-making process.
We have asked our friend to be a KD. He has tentatively agreed. He is being tested for any and all STDs, but a sperm analysis has not been done (nor will be, unless needed). We all agree that we do not want him to have any legal responsibilities or rights when it comes to the future kid(s). Because of this, we have hired a pair of attorneys to complete a donor agreement. The agreement will be finished by the end of this week. When I receive a draft, I will forward it on to KD so he can have his own legal counsel look over it. When all legal papers are signed, we are officially on our way of TTC.
In order to make our donor agreement legal, we had to exchange something of significant value with KD. Many women just write a check. This sounded too impersonal to both us and KD. Instead, we had B's best friend who is an artist create a painting. It came out absolutely beautiful. KD has already seen it and was just as excited as we wanted him to be.
I have been taking chewable vitamins and charting on fertility friend for over a year. When ovulation and TOM didn't seem to follow a clear pattern, I went to the doctor. After tests and ultrasounds, she found a complex right ovarian cyst. I had that removed in August 2007. The doctor said that everything else looked great while she was in there and I should not have any problem in getting pregnant.
Since around day 11 of my first cycle after my surgery I have been using OPKs to determine my LH surge. Well, today is day 22 and I see nothing. However, FF is telling me, based on previous cycles, that I could ovulate any day now, and to continue to test. So I do. Everyday.
Anyway...at this point in time here is where we are in the baby-making process.
We have asked our friend to be a KD. He has tentatively agreed. He is being tested for any and all STDs, but a sperm analysis has not been done (nor will be, unless needed). We all agree that we do not want him to have any legal responsibilities or rights when it comes to the future kid(s). Because of this, we have hired a pair of attorneys to complete a donor agreement. The agreement will be finished by the end of this week. When I receive a draft, I will forward it on to KD so he can have his own legal counsel look over it. When all legal papers are signed, we are officially on our way of TTC.
In order to make our donor agreement legal, we had to exchange something of significant value with KD. Many women just write a check. This sounded too impersonal to both us and KD. Instead, we had B's best friend who is an artist create a painting. It came out absolutely beautiful. KD has already seen it and was just as excited as we wanted him to be.
I have been taking chewable vitamins and charting on fertility friend for over a year. When ovulation and TOM didn't seem to follow a clear pattern, I went to the doctor. After tests and ultrasounds, she found a complex right ovarian cyst. I had that removed in August 2007. The doctor said that everything else looked great while she was in there and I should not have any problem in getting pregnant.
Since around day 11 of my first cycle after my surgery I have been using OPKs to determine my LH surge. Well, today is day 22 and I see nothing. However, FF is telling me, based on previous cycles, that I could ovulate any day now, and to continue to test. So I do. Everyday.
First Post
So, after playing around on the Internet and finding a wealth of 2-mom blogs, I decided to start my/our own. I figured it would be nice to have one place to do all the baby talk instead of trying to keep up on several different forums.
If I gave you the link, consider yourself on the inside when it comes to our family planning process. If you happened upon it, and know me/us in real life, try to respect our anonymity on here.
I haven't given B the link yet, as I just set it up yesterday and today, so for now it is only I (J) that will be posting. After this initial post I will update as to where we are in the whole TTC process.
If I gave you the link, consider yourself on the inside when it comes to our family planning process. If you happened upon it, and know me/us in real life, try to respect our anonymity on here.
I haven't given B the link yet, as I just set it up yesterday and today, so for now it is only I (J) that will be posting. After this initial post I will update as to where we are in the whole TTC process.
Thursday, October 18, 2007
Commonly Used Abbreviations
B- 1/2 of the pair (books)
BBT - Basal Body Temperature
BFN - Big Fat Negative
BFP - Big Fat Positive
CBEFM - Clear Blue Easy Fertility Monitor
CD - Cycle Day
CM - Cervical Mucus
DPO - Days past ovulation
EDD - Estimated Due Date
FF - Fertility Friend
HPT - Home Pregnancy Test
J - 1/2 of the pair (teacher)
KD - known donor
LMP - Last Menstrual Period
OPK - Ovulation Predictor Kits
RE - Reproductive Endocrinologist
TOM - Time of the Month
TTC-Trying to concieve
TWW - Two Week Wait
BBT - Basal Body Temperature
BFN - Big Fat Negative
BFP - Big Fat Positive
CBEFM - Clear Blue Easy Fertility Monitor
CD - Cycle Day
CM - Cervical Mucus
DPO - Days past ovulation
EDD - Estimated Due Date
FF - Fertility Friend
HPT - Home Pregnancy Test
J - 1/2 of the pair (teacher)
KD - known donor
LMP - Last Menstrual Period
OPK - Ovulation Predictor Kits
RE - Reproductive Endocrinologist
TOM - Time of the Month
TTC-Trying to concieve
TWW - Two Week Wait
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